Is Self-Love For Christians?

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I’ve been hearing a lot about self-love. Is participating in self-love okay for Christians?

Well, let’s take a look!

To start, What Is Self-Love?

Many may think self-love is all about yourself. Loving yourself and putting yourself before others.

So I did some digging to find out what is self-love and should Christians be involved.

According to Brain and Behavior, self-love is the state of appreciation of oneself that supports our physical, mental, and spiritual growth.

Self-love means taking care of yourself while not sacrificing your well-being for others.

Well, we know as Christians we are to lay our lives down daily which can result in sacrificing our wants and desires for others.

Self-love can look different from person to person.

Examples of Self-Love


Talking to and about yourself in love.
Prioritizing yourself
Setting healthy boundaries
Forgiving yourself
Being nice to yourself

Sounds pretty good, right?

According to Psychology Today, When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept much better our weaknesses as well as our strengths, have less need to explain away our shortcomings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, are more centred in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts.

Ok, I’m not feeling very comfortable with this…

Our weaknesses are made strong in Christ Jesus (2 Corinthians 12:9). And this is how we should accept our weaknesses. We don’t have to explain our shortcomings, because we rely on God’s grace.

Self-love is about having a high regard for your well-being and happiness.

Self-love is about yourself, your needs, your feelings, and your thoughts based on circumstances and situations.

I don’t think the self-love movement is for me or any Christian. As Christians, we are constantly looking to God for acceptance and not ourselves.

God created you perfectly, but not completely.

Relying on Him makes you complete.

Any “flaw” that you have is complete in Him. And He has given you the grace to overcome.

One problem with self-love is the actual word self-love. We are incapable of loving anything or anyone outside of God.

We love because God loved us first (1 John 4:19). God’s love is perfect and unchanging. Our love changes based on situations and circumstances.

This means we can love ourselves one day and hate ourselves another day based on our feelings.

As Christians, we don’t rely on feelings to indicate our love but by the Word of God. We know we are loved no matter what we feel.

What Is The Difference Between Self-love and Self-care?

There is a difference between self-love and self-care. We don’t want to get these mixed up.

Self-love is all about loving yourself unapologetically, while self-care is about caring for yourself.

Self-care can look like getting your nails done, taking a long hot bubble bath, going out for a game of basketball or golf, or eating healthy.

There is nothing wrong with these things. It is good to take care of yourself.

But self-love is the opposite of what God has told us to do.

And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.’ The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.” – Mark 12:30:31

So what do we do now?

Move forward, loving God first with all our heart, soul, mind and strength, then love our neighbors as ourselves.

But doing this we are fulfilling God’s command. Christians are to love themselves, but not more than their neighbors.

We are to trust God’s word which says you were fearfully and wonderfully made. (Ps. 139:14)
That says He is your strength. (Ps. 73:26)
That says if you humble yourself, He will lift you up (1 Peter 5:7)
That says you are altogether beautiful and there is no flaw in you (Song of Songs 4:7)

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Until next time, take care and God bless

9 thoughts on “Is Self-Love For Christians?”

  1. I agree! Getting caught up in the self-love movement can be a slippery slope. I like how you mentioned that you are to love yourself but just not more than God or others. I’ve personally found that taking some time to focusing on God’s love for me and develop some balanced form of love and acceptance of myself I’ve actually been able to love others better, still very different than the self-love explained here!
    Thought it was great how you explained the difference between self-love and self-care…..although the self-love movement is not for us as Christians, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t take a shower, get some sleep an do things to take care of ourselves. Great post as usual🤍🦋

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    1. Thank you Kay. To be honest, going into writing the blog I thought nothing was wrong with, what I will call the self-love movement, until I did some research. We should always look into that root of things before we join something to see if it lines up with the Word of God.

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  2. Great points! There is a definite need to love yourself as a creation of God, and even take care of yourself but it is much different than the self love movement that we see in the world today. I like how you broke the 2 down and showed the difference because it can get confusing for someone when they try to get out of a place of condemnation and try to love themself again, to differentiate the two when on the face they can both sound similar.

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  3. I agree. The Bible tells us to die to our flesh daily! I always felt uncomfortable myself with the whole “self-love” idea or movement. Scripture made it plain that in the last days we would be lovers of ourselves. That’s far different from self-care where you take good care of yourself. Somethings just sound good. If it contradicts the word of God it’s not for the Saints.
    This was a good post!

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  4. This was an interesting read. Yes, human beings do put too much emphasis on self-love as the healing that only a relationship with Jesus can bring. Still, we are called to love our neighbor as ourselves; this often entails sacrifice, as you point out, but I believe it entails a lot of mercy for others and ourselves, too, as we strive not to judge and deal compassionately with everyone – including in our own private thoughts which are what many associate with self-love, I suppose. Good read. Thank you for this article!

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  5. Agreed. Phil. 2 gives us the example of Jesus being a humble servant a d putting the will of God and need of others first. It’s easy to get prideful and selfish if we focus o self. I stead, we focus on God and let Him take care of us. Thanks for sharing!!

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